The bridesmaid had promised the bride she would lose weight and fit into the dress by the time of the wedding, but failed to keep her promise.
Weddings are hectic. Period. Some people make plans last minute, some people plan things way in advance hoping it all goes smoothly. Recently, a woman took to Reddit to share her story. She's getting married and now she is considering telling her bridesmaid she can't be one anymore. Before jumping to conclusions and throwing hate on the bride, give her story a read. She wrote: My bridesmaid and I have been friends for a long time. She’s always been on the heavier side but for the last few years, each time I see her, she’s put on more and more weight. Her mother is also obese and has countless health conditions due to her weight and diet.
The bride has tried to be a good friend, even in the past, and tried to help her on multiple occasions. I’ve been concerned about my bridesmaid for a while so I’ve invited her to come with me to the gym (she almost always bails), I come over and make healthier versions of her favorite foods, we go on walks instead of driving, etc. When she was planning for her dream wedding, she found the perfect bridesmaid dress. A long time ago, I found the perfect bridesmaid dress. However, after more research, my bridesmaid’s size is a few sizes larger than the largest dress size. So, the bride let her friend know of the situation in advance.
I let her know a year and a half in advance the situation and she insists on me keeping the dress and that she would lose weight. She seemed very excited about it and said this would be her motivation. I bought the dresses and ordered hers in the size she said she would become by the time of the wedding. Obviously, the friend thought this would be a good reason to lose weight and look good in the bridesmaid's dress at her pal's wedding. However, she did not keep her promise. It's not like the bride didn't give her time to make the change she was so keen on. A year and a half is quite a long time to get fit if you really want to.
It’s been a year since I’ve told her and I continuously see her post stories of her eating whole pizzas, drinking several sodas a day, and laying in bed watching Netflix all day. I’m very concerned about her health but I travel for work and can’t see her often to make food and go on walks with her. The bride is now wondering if she will be wrong to tell her friend that she can't be the bridesmaid if she can't fit into the dress. She then added that she would have looked for other options for the bridesmaid if she told her she wasn't comfortable with a small sizing. Now, who do you think is at fault here? The bride who purchased a dress too small or the bridesmaid who agreed to fit into the dress by the wedding, but failed?