Reddit user u/bridesmaidwoes123 described how her very good friend was "worried about how the pictures are going to look with someone with a bald head."
Every girl wants her wedding to be a perfect affair but it's seldom the case. Most of us know how occasions requiring the involvement of family members cannot possibly run smoothly without compromises. However, a Reddit user shared a story about a bridezilla for whom the word "compromise" does not seem to exist. Beginning this heartless tale of indifference, Redditor u/bridesmaidwoes123 explained the nature of her relationship with the bride whom she referred to as Karen. I am very good friends with the bride to be, lets call her Karen for simplicity. She got engaged about 1.5 years ago and immediately asked me to be a bridesmaid which I was thrilled about (she was my maid of honor for context).
The would-be bridesmaid then went on to reveal a few disheartening facts about her health, however, she chose not to dwell much in the details. It read: To make a long story short I got some real bad news in the past year and had to undergo radiation and chemotherapy. I don't want to go into details about this because its still very traumatic for me. My hair fell out and I am recovering but my hair is still very short. Ever since then, the woman had been actively taking part in fundraisers and public speeches for the survivor community and her friend Karen apparently had been "super supportive through all of this."
A nurse by profession, Karen was the perfect friend for discussing details regarding her health. Expressing the same she wrote: She is a nurse and it has been nice to have someone with medical background to chat about some of this issues about this. One day Karen invited bridesmaidwoes123 out to celebrate her "remission and end of treatment." Karen also hinted at "a special surprise" she had for her. I agree and we meet up. We go to a spa which was super nice and enjoy some skin treatments, massages, and general pampering, wrote the user.
Then at the end of the day she took her to a "special hair salon which specializes in high quality wigs." As expected, the woman was "a little taken aback by this." Explaining the reason behind it she wrote: Karen knows that a lot of the work I have been involves psychological treatment in cancer patients and avoiding the shame associated with hair loss for instance. Ignoring her immediate shock, she went on with the appointment politely trying a few wigs on. I was quite upset honestly, she confessed, I politely decline when she offers to pick one out and try to forget the whole ordeal.
The following day she received a call from Karen who informed her how she couldn't be a part of the bridal party because "the minister stated there are too many people in the bridal party." Because she was her " number 2 girl" after Karen's sister "who she barely gets a long with" the Redditor sensed something fishy. I call around and it although some of the other bridesmaids are reluctant to tell me anything hint at the fact that Karen was worried about how the pictures are going to look with someone with a bald head, wrote bridesmaidwoes123.
She then tried getting in touch with the bride in order to clear the air, but she did not respond immediately to her calls. In an update, she posted how she finally spoke to Karen. She told me that it was definitely not because of my hair but because the minister was adamant that six maid of honors was too many, recalled the woman. By now, Karen shifted the whole blame onto the Redditor who according to the bride had become very distant. The post continued reading: She went on to say that I have been really distant the past year and that I didn’t seem interested in helping her with the wedding which is why she decided to select me to be off the wedding party. She said she helped me a lot and that I’m not returning the favor by being a team player. She said that she knows I am going through a lot but that my personality “has changed” and that I’m not the friend she knows from childhood.
She then had the audacity of offering her to wear a wig in order to get back on her bridesmaid list. Of course, Karen didn't say that directly, but that's what she meant. I’m still conflicted but she brought up the wig again almost like it wear it I can be back on the team. She didn’t actually say that but kind of a weird feeling I got, read the post. After having had enough of the bridezilla drama, bridesmaidwoes123 wrote: I think I’m done with her and I don’t think I can bring myself to go to the wedding. I thought she was a different person than a self-interested bride. Thanks for all the support. I don’t want to shame her or anything because that’s not the kind of person I am.