All of them met for the first time at Justin's and Karalyn's wedding and they realized there was something there, and they decided to take it further.
Karalyn Henry always knew she was attracted to both men and women when she was a teen, but she also realized she felt the attraction towards people at the same time, which is when she discovered she was polyamorous. She then began dating her childhood sweetheart Justin in a monogamous relationship, and she decided to tell him of her desire to have a relationship with more than one person at the same time. Justin, who was all set to become her husband soon, said he did not mind Karalyn having a girlfriend, reports Metro. That's when Karalyn met Lana, a woman from Ireland, online, and realized she had feelings for her.
She decided to invite Lana to her wedding with Justin wedding and asked her to be a bridesmaid. Justin never identified himself as polyamorous, but he was also intrigued when he met Lana at the wedding, and the three of them decided to enter a relationship - on their wedding day, where all of them met each other for the first time. Karalyn and Justin stay together and Lana visits them whenever she can, to spend some time with them.
Apparently, Karalyn and Justin take turns to spend some alone time with Lana, and the three of them spend time together, as well. They even take turns to sleep in the middle because they say that's the best spot in a polyamorous relationship. In an interview with Daily Star, she said , "I brought my worries [about polyamory] up with my now husband, and he nonchalantly said, 'well you can just date a girl on the side'", said Karlyn.
“My mind was blown – I didn't even think that was a possibility, to be honest. We gave it a go though, and it just worked so perfectly that it stuck to us. I don't know if I could go back to being monogamous – polyamory just works so well for us," she said. Their relationship started out as a Poly V Triad, which means that Lana and Karalyn were dating, but not Justin and her.
“When Lana flew over for our wedding, though, they both developed crushes on each other and started dating as well. That turned us into a regular Poly Triad," she added. A Poly Triad is the term used for a relationship between three people. But even though Karalyn and Justin have a good time with Lana, there are a lot of misconceptions about them by society because polyamory is not a commonly accepted practice.
"A misconception is that I'm cheating on my husband – that one really gets under my skin. Even when I explain to people that it's consensual between all partners, they still consider it cheating. The other one is people saying that I love my husband less because I date other people. I’ve had coworkers find out about it via my social media before I've gotten the chance to tell them; and while most have taken it really well, others are a little sketched out by it for a while,” she added.
Then there are people who say she doesn't really love her husband because she dates other people, but they pay no heed to what people have to say because they are okay with what's going on with them, and so are their families, and that's all that matters to them. “It took me halfway through my first polyamorous relationship before I felt comfortable telling anybody - but they all received it very well. My mother especially!" she said.
"She used to say that there was no way that someone could love both genders, that they were being greedy, and that they should just pick one. When Lana was over in the states, my family and my husband's family fell in love with her. It's all been overwhelmingly positive. But when I came out to her, explained the situation, and she saw how happy I was, and how happy I loved both of my partners; she changed her mind," added Karalyn. Karalyn hopes to normalize polyamory and she's even started a YouTube channel, where she documents parts of her life. She also gets a lot of questions from people who want to know what a polyamorous relationship is and she takes time out to answer them.