The parents apparently know it's gaslighting and that the daughter will grow up to have trust issues, but they have no plans to stop.
For a boy in the closet under the cupboard, Harry Potter has come a long way. The books and movies are still watched and enjoyed across the globe. One couple even took to Reddit to share how they're bringing up their daughter to believe that she's actually a Witch and that the wizarding world is real. While the original post has been deleted, a screenshot of it has been shared on Twitter. Their original post was meant for them to get more creative ideas on how to keep this going. The post started with how they began this whole charade. Since our daughter was 5 and my wife and I first started reading her the Harry Potter books we have told her that she is a witch and that the Wizarding World is real.
With age, her questions started to get deeper, and her parents have been making up details about their family history and adding to the illusion. They've shared stories about times we used magic. Now, according to them, their daughter is processing many difficult subjects like racism, climate change, and even the coronavirus through this lens. They know they're lying to their daughter but they believe that the fact they know about this should spare them from judgment. They shared that before other parents judge their parenting skills, We know it's gaslighting and that eventually, she'll have to be disappointed and have trust issues with us when she learns the truth.
I'm a fully grown adult woman who refuses to believe magic isn't real and even I think that is absolutely ridiculous. And that is going to hurt her so badly. I cried about Santa and hated my parents for that lie, and I cried about the tooth fairy. She is not going to forgive this— Rrrrrose (@Anaemic_Royalty) June 25, 2020
We justify it that we are adding magic to her childhood and giving her motivation to reach her full (magical) potential (since she needs to study hard to be accepted to Hogwarts). The parents claim that they've asked her teachers about lying to their daughter about the wizarding world and they think it's more awesome and creative than damaging. They even compared their teaching methods to those of parents who teach their children about religion. I mean, how different is it from teaching your kids that God walked on water and turned water to wine? It's the same as Professor McGonagall transfiguring a rat into a goblet.
If my parents made me believe Hogwarts existed when I was a kid and then when I became 10 they told me "sorry kiddo, no owl is coming for you because Hogwarts doesn't exist" I would have never let them live that down and I hope this child doesn't either.— Marco Bortoluzzi (@LarenDorr) June 25, 2020
They concluded their post asking for ideas: looking for more ideas for how to inject little bits of Harry Potter magic into everyday life using technology, crafts, and adding more details to the fanfic that is our lives, but they really didn't get a lot of those. People kept commenting that this was a really crappy way of bringing their daughter up. They also added that this can go on to have a negative effect on the little girl's life. Not to mention major trust issues when she grows up to realize that all of this was one big fat lie. u/ailamontxx wrote: You’re gonna leave your child with so much trust issues when she grows up. This is why some people doesn’t deserve kids. Ergo, you already know you’re gaslighting but you’re still doing it? Sick.
My 9yo has loved HP since she was 5 too and guess what?! It’s just as magical if you don’t lie about it. These people are knowingly hurting their child and betraying her trust.— 🛸 (@tayIortayIor) June 25, 2020