Sometimes, there comes a stage where nothing can fix a relationship. There could be several reasons as to why it did not work, but it just can't be saved!
Even if it's all about love, sustaining a relationship is not all that easy. Sometimes, even with immense love, there comes a point where you just don't think it's possible to be able to spend another minute together. There are people who have taken vows to be with one another in sickness and in health, but still, find it hard to be together. There can be several reasons that could lead to a relationship to break. As time passes, things change, and people do, too, along with it. It's just how the world works, and you can't do anything about it. Slowly, you realize the person you fell in love with and decided to spend the rest of your life together is not the person you're with now. They've changed, and they're not going to come back, either.
You know it's bringing both of you no good by staying together, but you do, because you have invested years in the relationship. It is not easy to throw in the towel and walk away, but sometimes, that's the only option you have right in front of you. Still, when you don't want to give up on the last thread of hope, you seek counseling, praying that it could be the answer to all your problems, but it never is. Once there are signs of trouble in the relationship, it is hard to go back to what you once were.
When you started the relationship, you found these things to be cute and endearing. But as time passes, those cute things get under your skin, and you're easily irritated. When you guys just met, you noticed their habits but chose to ignore it anyway, but when things aren't smooth sailing, those habits of theirs be it the way they eat or how they leave the toilet gets on your nerves. It's when you find yourself to be ticked off with such trivial things (not trivial to you) that you feel your relationship is too fragile.
You find yourself to be too short-tempered and it pisses you off when you realize that it is impossible to have a proper conversation with your partner without either of you losing your temper. And when you do, you hurl out abuses and that's when your civility towards one another goes for a toss. More often than not, the anger that is free-flowing now comes from months of bottling up how you feel!
When you don't like someone anymore, everything they do seems to tick you off. It may surprise you as to what you could find to be irritating. The way they talk, the way they walk or even the way they breathe could all trigger you and lead you to blame them for something they can't really control. This is also because your dislike for your significant other is consuming you, making it harder for you to think clearly. Yet another warning sign that trying to fix this relationship will lead you nowhere.
Now that you know everything and anything can lead to a huge showdown, you tread carefully, just because you want to avoid a scene. You may feel that you're doing this because you want to keep it as peaceful as you can, but you're only just cutting off communication, without realizing you're harming your partner and yourself while doing this. This lack of communication is definitely not healthy for either of you!
With all the issues being blown out of proportion, you slowly begin to realize you're not you around your partner. You can't afford to be yourself because that seems to be irritating them. It's not worth the trouble if you can't be yourself, is it? How much longer are you going to pretend to be someone you're not just so you can avoid a couple of disagreements. You have had enough of these fights, so you begin to control your every move, and you end up losing yourself in the process.
At first, when the relationship started, you used to confide in your partner about everything that happened in your life. As time goes by, you realize your partner listened to you share your problems and your insecurities, only to have them used against you at a later point. You don't feel comforted by them anymore. This is when you need someone in your life for you to just talk to and share your problems with because you can't seem to do that with your partner anymore.
When you can't talk to your partner anymore, you begin to confide in someone else. To them, you probably don't share personal information too much, which includes the fact that you've got a partner. Also, when it comes to savings and achievements, what was once a collective "we" has now become an "I". There's just one person you're concerned about, and that's yourself. You think of yourself and do stuff that benefits just you, and not both of you as it used to at one point.
There is no spark, no connection between you both. There's just no intimacy or alone time in this relationship anymore. Do you even remember the last time you held hands or went out on a date? Most of the time, other things can be solved, but when there's no spark, there's just no point in taking the relationship further. You're so repulsed by the thought of getting intimate that you will do just about anything to get away from it. If you can't even bear to be in the same space as one another, what is the point in trying to take it further?