Not only does the woman want to breastfeed the woman's two-month-old, but she also hoped to "tandem feed" with the sister-in-law's unborn child.
Breastfeeding is such a unique experience and it creates a great bond between a mother and a child, which explains why one woman was rather shocked to hear her mother-in-law's abrupt request. The 70-year-old grandmother revealed that she wants to breastfeed her grandson so she can also share a bond with him. The woman took to Reddit to share her mother-in-law's request, adding that the woman believes it will help strengthen her connection with her grandbabies. Not only does the woman want to breastfeed OP's two-month-old, but she also hoped to "tandem feed" with the sister-in-law's unborn child. The post has since been deleted from the platform.
"This 70-year-old woman plans to breastfeed [my] sister-in-law’s first baby that’s due in six weeks," the woman wrote, as quoted by Mirror. "She read that grandmas help breastfeed babies in some cultures and want to give it a go. Now that she’s got this idea that she’s going to breastfeed ‘her grandbaby’, she’s started to come for me saying that she doesn’t want a stronger bond with one baby more than the other... And since he’s already here, she wants to start ‘practicing’ breastfeeding with my baby in hopes it goes well, and then she can breastfeed both my baby and [my] sister-in-law’s baby."
The woman's daughter is about to give birth and the daughter-in-law already has a baby, and the mother-in-law seems to be quite excited to breastfeed whichever baby is available. "She says she wants to breastfeed them at the same time... like her eyes gloss over as if it’s some dream of hers to tandem feed them," the daughter-in-law shared. "I can't even. This woman is a special kind of delusional. Can women that age really even re-lactate?" After the rather weird idea was put on the table, the woman's son told her they were not too comfortable with the whole scenario. Immediately, she pinned the blame on the daughter-in-law, without even thinking that she was crossing the line.
"Of course, this all falls onto me in her eyes, she’s mad saying I’m standing in the way of her having a closer bond with her grandbabies," the daughter-in-law went on to say. "I'm the reason. Even though my [husband] was equally grossed out. I told her to go talk to her doctor and find a lactation consultant if it’s that important to her, but that she will never ever breastfeed any of my babies no matter what." In the comments, the OP revealed that she's since maintained a distance with the MIL, adding that she makes OP's older child uncomfortable, too, with her forced hugs.
People took to Facebook to share their opinions, and most seem to think it's very weird and that the MIL is crossing the line. Abbey Storr shared: I and many other grandmas and nannas have built up a lovely grandparent bond with grandchildren without taking on the intimate bonds that are for the parents. I agree totally with you the grandmother is bang out of order. I would watch this one very closely. Lisa Southernwood added: Some women still produce milk long after having their children. Women also use their breasts to help calm a baby if the baby's mother is not around, in some countries. But yeah it’s a big no-no from me.