People believe that actions ring louder than words and it's never been truer as speaking your emotions don't reciprocate what a person feels as compared to acting on them.
What speaks more to you? Your partner saying that they love you or them showing their love through gestures and the way they treat you? Body language is an integral part of expressing how someone feels, as words alone can't emphasize the depth of their feelings. Non-verbal ways of communicating through facial expressions, gestures, vocal tone, and volume show what your partner truly feels for you. Sometimes body language can be uncertain, that's why it goes well with your words, allowing you to express yourself clearly.
Interpretation also plays a key role in how you interact and relate with people. For example, when you're in love with a person, you'll go to lengths to not only say that you love them but you'll also express your feelings by going out on a date or hugging them. A person who's angry might express their frustration by flipping their finger or include body actions with verbal abuse. Body languages tend to have a bigger impact on relationships more than words alone. According to Albert Mehrabian, Professor Emeritus of Psychology at UCLA, 55 percent of communication is nonverbal.
Here are four ways to use your gestures to establish stronger relationships.
According to studies, you convey that you're superior to your partner when you do little things like placing yourself on a higher seat than your partner, putting your fingers on your partner's neck or keeping your legs up. Whereas, the partner who chooses to sit at a lower seat or slouches while talking show that they're resentful and defensive. When you mirror your partner's postures and behavior, you let them know that you have strong feelings and also nudge them to reciprocate as well. Mirroring their actions shows collaboration and cooperation.
Every relationship needs the assurance of touch and physical contact to strengthen the bond between partners. Your feelings are strongly received when you enact it through touching your partner, whether it's holding hands, hugging or kissing. Touch boosts the 'love hormone' called oxytocin which increases mutual trust between partners and also lowers cortisol levels to reduce stress.
It's important to establish trust in a relationship, and approaching your partner with an open mind and free body language will convey that they can entrust you with their feelings. According to The Power of Body Language by Tonya Reiman, the way you express yourself with your body shows what you want to convey and what you feel about yourself. Gesturing with your palms can build trust and can exactly imitate the way you feel to your partner. Palms up means a universal way of seeking cooperation. Palms down means establishing dominance and authority. Fists show a sign of anger and frustration.
You can notice the way a person feels about you with the way they express their words through their mouth. “When a person has something to say, the brain sends a message to the lips and tongue to start shaping the sentiment,” David B. Givens, Ph.D., author of Love Signals, told Cosmopolitan. Sentiments can be easily portrayed with the expression your partner shows when they talk to you. When you see a person's lips pucker up “You’re seeing thoughts expressed before he even has a chance to come out with the words.”