When you've gone through an emotional ride of pain and trauma, kicking back from it becomes hard. You try to find ways to heal yourself which is eventually projected on people.
You are in trauma and pain. But despite it all, you try to find little things in life to make yourself feel better and heal. In your journey to heal you might end up having different coping mechanisms which are projected in different ways. Whether you've been through a rough relationship or you have unresolved issues with your family or friends, the pain you go through doesn't disappear in an instant. The pain will eventually tear through you, interfering in everyday activities and normal routines. Here are 10 behaviors that you're unknowingly projecting, when you're simultaneously trying to deal with your grief.
When you've invested all your patience and strength in a relationship, you find it exhausting to redo the whole routine again for people who don't care. You already feel disheartened after your heartbreak so when people expect you to show patience, you end up getting frustrated. Showing patience takes a great amount of emotional strength, something you've lost along the way.
Crying is a way of venting your frustration and all the pain that you've collected throughout your relationship. It's the feeling of not having your other half with you that makes you feel alone in your misery. You find yourself breaking down even at the smallest mention of the person you once loved. The initial phase of a heartbreak will involve weeks or even months of crying but eventually, time will heal the wounds of your relationship.
You find yourself getting easily hurt or offended by people at trivial things. The phase immediately after your heartbreak almost always pushes you to make irrational decisions or choices. At the back of your mind, you're aware of the bad choices you're jumping into but you don't care enough to listen to your instinct and eventually go with the impulse.
The heartbreak takes you by storm where you've even lost the will to eat. Your emotions interfere with your daily routines and you almost always find yourself daydreaming or phasing out mid conversations. Your friends and family will encourage you to eat healthily, however, you see yourself ignoring their advice while going through your grief. You're awake on most days and find it difficult to say or do things.
No one can reach you here, it's just your thoughts and feelings that keep playing on repeat. You feel that being isolated can keep you away from your emotional pain but it all fuels your bad memories, leading you to feel sadness, loneliness or eventually depression. You feel that if you're alone, you'll be in control of your emotions and people won't be able to influence your thoughts.
Despite what's happened to you, life goes on and people will continue to include you in their plans. However, isolation has become your best friend and you try your best to avoid social situations. People try their best to help you cope through the heartbreak by including you in their plans but you still find yourself feeling alone and dejected within a group of people.
You feel like everything you do is mechanical and even the routines you were once used to has become difficult to tackle. You already consider yourself to be worthless at this point but you eventually think that people see you the same way. Losing your significant other has even pushed you to lose your purpose in life. You always feel the need to seek reassurance from people in everything.
When you're stuck in your grief you tend to see everything in the same light, painted in black and white. During this period, you feel your emotions in an intense way which is projected in your conversations and the way you view a situation. Even certain words or references can trigger memories of the past making you feel the heartbreak all over again.
Trust becomes a taboo word in your dictionary and you find yourself questioning everything. Even simple decisions are over thought and over analyzed. Traumatic experiences negatively impact the way you think and act for a period of time until it eventually fades away. You get an inkling that people can sense your fear and immediately find yourself putting your guard up.
You never have control over your feelings during this time, even people find it difficult to understand how you truly feel. You're either sad and lonely or you're angry and frustrated. Sometimes you feel like your own emotions can be suffocating to a point where you can't breathe. You find yourself having an emotional flashback when things don't go according to your expectations.