Brittany Baxter went viral on social media when she explained why she won't allow people, including her own parents, to touch her child without the little girl's permission. However, her parents have seemed to disregard this fact and are "hurt"
It's only natural for people to shower someone they love with a bunch of hugs and kisses. While it is nice, one doesn't wonder if the person on the receiving end of this sudden burst of love is okay with it. That's why there's this thing called consent, so you can be sure about how the other person feels about it. However, the whole concept of consent seems to disappear when it's within the family. Take grandparents for instance; they will always smother their grandkids with hugs and cuddles. Sure, kids love that too, but sometimes they might feel uncomfortable, but that doesn't matter to the grandparents.
That’s why one mother and TikTok video creator is trying to get her daughter’s grandparents to understand consent. Australian mom Brittany Baxter shared a video on TikTok where she explains how her two-year-old child's grandparents completely ignore their grandchild’s "no" and kiss and hug her anyway. In fact, they feel hurt that the child has refused their love instead of trying to understand why she's said no. "As a parent, I practice consent with my daughter and something’s really been bothering me, so I thought why not take it to TikTok so we can talk about it," Brittany began, according to News.com.au.
"Can we please start normalizing the fact that kids do not have to kiss and hug adults? My daughter’s almost two years old and I’ve been in the process of teaching her consent basically since the day that she’s been born, and I find it really f***ing unhelpful when the adults in her life are like 'What?! We have to ask for a kiss and a hug?' – even though I’ve explained why multiple times." She then mentioned how adults have felt hurt when she's said no and then "proceed to overstep her body boundaries anyway." She explained further that even though her daughter is only two, she is entitled to say no.
"My daughter and her body do not exist to make anyone feel more comfortable and to make anyone feel more loved. It is not her fault and it’s not my fault that the older generation hasn’t taken the time throughout their entire lives to learn how to regulate their emotions so consent doesn’t continue to be overlooked," she said. The mother then concluded her rant by saying, "No one’s feelings are ever going to be more important than my daughter’s right to her own body," and called on grandparents to "do better." However, her consent video had mixed reactions Some people agreed with Brittany's stance. "I can’t tap 'like' enough on this one!" wrote one woman. "Preach sister. Love this!!!"
"Working on this with my 2-year-old as well," added another mom. "We’ve had to reduce interactions with my mother due to her not expecting this and I feel no guilt." One man shared, “50-year-old, proud uncle here. I learned early to ask, 'Would you like a hug, high five, nothing?' Always cool. Always supported. It’s so important!"
And there were others who did not share her view. "I encourage my 21-month-old to bond (through emotional and physical warmth) with my parents, and she is so connected to them," shared one mom. "I really don’t get your anger." Another wrote, "I actually can’t tell if this is satirical or serious?"
Well, what do you think? Is she right?