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Dating Expert Says Men Should Never Let A Woman Pay On First Date, Otherwise "It Shows You're Cheap"

Dating Expert Says Men Should Never Let A Woman Pay On First Date, Otherwise "It Shows You're Cheap"

There were mixed reactions

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A self-proclaimed dating expert on TikTok caused a storm of a debate by suggesting that guys should never let a woman pay the bill on a first date. The 'expert' known as @ask.nelly on social media went a step ahead and called men who don't it or even split the bill as "cheap" and someone who was not "raised right." She should know that such dating practices are outdated and are not so relevant in this day and age. Nelly began, "Men should never let a woman pay for a first date because if you're asking a girl out and then going Dutch, it just shows you're cheap." She had a lot more insulting things to say for the men who did not fit the bill. She also had some words of so-called wisdom for men with less money but who still wanted to go out on a date to a nice place.



 

 

"By that [dating out of their price range] I mean you're taking a girl out on a date you can't afford to do, so instead of trying to flex on a nice dinner, you're better off taking her on a picnic in the park," she said. She even spoke for other "progressive" women and girls and said, "And even the most progressive girls who insist they split it with you and say they don't mind... do mind. Not because they can't afford it, but because it shows us your character and if you're a girl and you've paid for first dates, I want to tell you that he ain't it sis." There were mixed reactions from people. Anna Louise commented on Facebook: Not that I go out on dates these days. But I always offer to pay or contribute but 90% of the time the date will insist on paying. It's quite nice tbh. I very much appreciate it. If he doesn't pay, I don't automatically assume he's cheap.



 

 

There were those like Laurence-Denis Brisson-Thériault who said paying of bills on the first date was not about gender roles. He wrote: Paying a bill on a date shouldnt be taken as seriously. I would say if the man or the women had a good time they can offer to pay the bill, it's not a gender kind of thing but only a act of generosity between two humans, simple as that. If any of the two feel offended for whatever reasons just split the bill and move on with your day. Others like Susan Chapple completely disagreed with this expert and asked: WHY?. She added: A few years ago, women were burning their bras and wanting to be equal so why should a man pay everything on any date come to that. Many women these days earn as much as or even more than men.



 

 

She said further: It should be equal unless on a birthday or some other celebration when a woman is treated, and also if the man is being treated. Natasha Lennard added: BS we want to be treated equal in the work force... in society... in sports... so why cant we be equal when it comes to paying for ourselves on dates... i will always pay for myself... and the man should respect such decisions doesnt make them any less of a man in my opinion in fact i respect them more for accepting it. (sic)

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