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Couple Adopts Abandoned Girl Breaking Racial Stereotypes: "She’s White. Is That Okay?"

Couple Adopts Abandoned Girl Breaking Racial Stereotypes: "She’s White. Is That Okay?"

While the family has not been subjected to any racism yet, Tierra Hamm confessed that they do get the occasional stare once in a while when their kids call them mommy and daddy.

Representative cover image source: Getty | Photo by Anchiy

A couple, who failed to get pregnant after trying hard for years, got a chance to finally foster a child. It was an opportunity that they had been patiently for and there was no way they were going to be picky about who they would be getting. Tierra, who is Black, and Patrick Hamm, who is white, knew they wanted a big family ever since they began dating at the age of 18. While Tierra was one of six children. Patrick was the only child but together they wanted to grow as a family. After years of trying and failing to get pregnant, the couple approached a specialist and tried intrauterine insemination (IUI). But even that didn't work. 

When Tierra first thought about fostering a child, she was a bit hesitant but after speaking to someone who knew about it, she was "100 percent on board" at the prospect. The two soon began the training process and just a month after becoming licensed foster parents, Tierra and Patrick received a call that would change their lives. Sharing her touching journey as a foster parent, Tierra wrote a touching personal essay for InspireMore, according to Goal Cast. An adorable 15-month-old baby named Felicity needed to be relocated as the previous foster mom had plans of going back to school.

 

"The social worker on the phone said, 'She’s very shy and she has attachment issues,'" recalled Tierra. But what the lady said next was a little shocking. "She paused for a second and then said, 'She’s white. Is that okay?'" The following day, Tierra and Patrick picked up the baby who cried for almost 24 hours and just ask they thought about giving her up, she started calling them "Mommy" and "Daddy." The foster parents' happiness knew no bounds and seeing Felicity's delight, the birth mother eventually relinquished custody to them. "That was the most bittersweet feeling, to know a mother loved her kids so much, she was willing to sign that part of her life away," wrote Tierra. "I am forever grateful for her and her sacrifice."

For their next foster baby, they got a child who had a drug dependency but the Hamms had no problem in opening up their homes to him. "So, you and Patrick are open to taking infants, right?' I said, 'Absolutely!' He responded, 'How would you like to take in a five-day-old? He is in the hospital right now because he is premature but he will be ready to go home in a couple of days.' I said, 'Oh my gosh, yes!'" recalled the mother. However, baby Sam had to be in the hospital for more than a month on a feeding tube due to his drug dependency. With the foster family's love and care, Sam ultimately got adopted by them. 

Representative image source: Getty | Photo by Anchiy

 

Seven weeks after this, Sam's birth mother revealed that she had another child on the way and asked the Hamms if they were interested in taking him as well. The pair did not object to the idea and adopted their third child. Now, the Hamms have three children and although their skin color does not match, they are still very much a family. "Our skin may not match, but you cannot tell me or my kids we aren’t a family," wrote the mother. "We live in a predominately white community and we have not faced any hardships or racism, which I am so thankful for."

Furthermore, she noted, "Families do not have to match. As our kids get older, we are discussing race/color more and more. The kids know our skin is different but it doesn’t matter to them." While the family has not been subjected to any racism yet, Tierra confessed that they do get the occasional stare once in a while when their kids call them mommy and daddy. "Though we haven’t faced racism, we do get the stares, especially when the kids are yelling 'mommy and daddy,'" she shared. You can follow the family's journey on TikTok.

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